Monday, December 6, 2010

Hanging Out: the no sex date


Hanging out seems to be the new term we are supposed to be using rather than dating. It seems simple right? Hey do you want to hang out with me? Let's hang out at the movies and then get some dinner. Or, let's hang out at your place, cuddle up, and pretend to watch a sappy movie, but really we are going to make out and maybe cop a feel...cop a feel...who says that anymore too!?!

Hanging out seems to be the most simple terms used to describe a much more (or maybe not so) complicated word, dating. Lets face it, when you hang out with someone, there is no pressure of having sex, making out, or masturbatory acts. It is simply that, hanging out, chatting, enjoying time with each other, either as friends, friends with benefits, sex partner, etc. Hanging out is the clear solution to have no pressure added.

Really, think about it. It makes so much sense. When ever you say the word lets go on a date, the insides cringe. Do I pay? Does he pay or both? Should I make the first move? Is he going to kiss me? Is my breath foul? Does he like me? Are we going to have sex after this? A bj in the car? Fuck, I already got myself in a tizzy just thinking about all of this...fuck I said tizzy! Lets hang out. Simple, no worries, "it is what it is."

The word dating brings up too many worries. You have to think about every little aspect of the date and what you are doing. You aren't yourself, you are busy trying to not do stupid shit or say something offensive. Better yet, say something that would make you look and feel dumb. You worry about what you eat, drink, everything...hey no one wants to have sex on a full stomach. TMI.

Hanging out is more relaxed. It relieves you from having to think so much about what is occurring, you allow yourself to have a great time with the person. Trust me you will learn more about a person and yourself.

I love it...so give it a try. Hang out with him and have some fun, anything else that happens is a bonus! Just always be safe and remember you don't want to get AIDs in your mouth.

15 comments:

  1. I believe the term is "cop a feel"

    And also, I really like dating. I like the excitement and the nervousness that goes along with it. I like that it's more than just hanging out. I never wanted a "hanging out" buddy...that's a friend. I wanted someone to date. I want the label. I want to know that the other person is also into me.

    Death to hanging out and bring on the dating. Heck, I'd even go old school and settle for "courting."

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  2. must correct cop a feel...thanks! You bring up a great point...labels and what they entail. They give certainty of what is happening, that it is real and that both of you are into each other. Hanging out can have the same I believe, just relieves some of the pressure of what to expect. Or maybe that's my problem I have to work on...I expect...oh no...now I have to go and think! thanks!

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  3. :-) P.s. this is Justin

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  4. Ok "courting", really? Do you also attend "cotillions" or "sock hops"? Maybe you can go down to the "ice cream parlor" in your "jalopy" and share a "fizzy". Just make sure your date doesn't "get fresh" without a "prophylactic"

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  5. I love old school values, real men are lacking in the world...I hope he wears a bow tie. That would be sexy.

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  6. Bow ties are the ish!

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  7. "hanging out" makes it more casual. Even if you are into the person, it makes it more easier to tell yourself ok cool, were hanging out, but don't expect too much just yet!

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  8. I also want to be "courted." LOL Harold. But i "hang out" because it's the generational term for courting....

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  9. See men do want to be courted...hey if we can revisit the 70s, 80s, and 90s...why not the other decades. Gay cotellion here I come!

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  10. Bow Ties are for douche bags. They scream "Look at me, I think I'm cute!". Chances are your not cute, your just making a spectacle out of yourself. You want people to think that your more interesting than you really are.

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  11. No, men want everyone to think they want to be courted. It sounds classier than dinner, drinks, making out and a BJ in the car. If the opportunity presents itself, butt babies will be made haha. So lets cut the crap, we are men, give us sex! So hike up those pants, put your lame ass bow tie on, and go have some dork sex already you dweebs.

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  12. so then just remember to have sex with your pinky out.

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  13. When I have sex my pinkies are on your face because while I'm inside you I'm holding it kissing you.

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