Monday, December 6, 2010
Hanging Out: the no sex date
Hanging out seems to be the new term we are supposed to be using rather than dating. It seems simple right? Hey do you want to hang out with me? Let's hang out at the movies and then get some dinner. Or, let's hang out at your place, cuddle up, and pretend to watch a sappy movie, but really we are going to make out and maybe cop a feel...cop a feel...who says that anymore too!?!
Hanging out seems to be the most simple terms used to describe a much more (or maybe not so) complicated word, dating. Lets face it, when you hang out with someone, there is no pressure of having sex, making out, or masturbatory acts. It is simply that, hanging out, chatting, enjoying time with each other, either as friends, friends with benefits, sex partner, etc. Hanging out is the clear solution to have no pressure added.
Really, think about it. It makes so much sense. When ever you say the word lets go on a date, the insides cringe. Do I pay? Does he pay or both? Should I make the first move? Is he going to kiss me? Is my breath foul? Does he like me? Are we going to have sex after this? A bj in the car? Fuck, I already got myself in a tizzy just thinking about all of this...fuck I said tizzy! Lets hang out. Simple, no worries, "it is what it is."
The word dating brings up too many worries. You have to think about every little aspect of the date and what you are doing. You aren't yourself, you are busy trying to not do stupid shit or say something offensive. Better yet, say something that would make you look and feel dumb. You worry about what you eat, drink, everything...hey no one wants to have sex on a full stomach. TMI.
Hanging out is more relaxed. It relieves you from having to think so much about what is occurring, you allow yourself to have a great time with the person. Trust me you will learn more about a person and yourself.
I love it...so give it a try. Hang out with him and have some fun, anything else that happens is a bonus! Just always be safe and remember you don't want to get AIDs in your mouth.