Is it alright for a guy to just want to throw back a couple of beers and cuddle afterwards while taking a nap...minus sex? It sounds cute and nice and in some awkward way romantic. But can a relationship ensue? Relationship monster rears it's ugly face...
This is the problem I think, we think too much. Well at least I do...I let my own hang ups get in the way of allowing me to just have a delightful afternoon of beer busting and cuddling. Fuck! I said delightful! Really though, that is something we do, as gay men with morals, ethics and social responsibility...we need to let go and let our inner "newbie whore" come out.
Remember when you came out and felt the need to have sex with anyone that paid any attention to you? Or you knew that you were in love with them after he came inside of you and said it was alright he is clean (besides you should be safe!). Stop denying it, I as your gay colleague, know a thing or two about that phase. But really people please please know your status...I promote that!
We were carefree, indulgent, excessive, dare I say it...FUN! Ok, maybe I became serious. As a man who was in an LTR (long term relationship) it happens. So how do I go about finding my inner "newbie whore." Suggestions....anybody? COMMENT PLEASE!
My new rule is say YES to anything. Maybe I need to stop watching the movie, YES Man, but I am going to follow the mantra. Say yes to beer busting and cuddling, say yes to showers in the men's locker room at Ballys, say yes to a quickie in the car down the hill away from my house.
Maybe not that far, but say yes to things that you thought you would never do (minus weird sex fetishes, unless you want to) and see where it takes you. You never know it might be your/my next 3 months.